Like so many emotions, fear has both positive and negative aspects.
Positively, fear acts as a signal. Genuine fear
warns and reminds us to "Stay alert!" Fear signals us
to pay attention. At its best, fear can catapult us into action.
Negatively, genuine fear does in fact threaten
and jeopardize us on all levels of our lives. It can become
generalized so that you have an overriding feeling of fear with
no real focus.
KINDS OF FEAR:
Fear comes in many different shapes and sizes, but the most common can
be categorized as follows.
The Fear of Lack of Money: The fear of lack of money is not only a common fear, but also
one of the most destructive. This fear paralyses the
faculty of reason, destroys the faculty of imagination, kills off
self-reliance, undermines enthusiasm, discourages initiative, leads
to uncertainty of purpose, encourages procrastination, wipes out
enthusiasm and makes self-control an impossibility
The Fear of Criticism: Nobody likes being criticized, but for some, the fear of
criticism is a serious obstacle to achievement in aspects of life.
This potent fear can manifest through self-consciousness, feelings
of inferiority, extravagance and lack of initiative, poise and
ambition. It can be embedded in your mind from many sources.
The Fear of Ill Health: This is closely associated with the fear of old age and the
fear of death. Many people fear sickness because they worry about
dying. It is estimated that 75% of people who visit doctors suffer
The Fear of loss: This is the most painful of all fears and often plays havoc on the
mind You fear loss in three main areas.
Loss of "Image." Teenagers
so fear humiliation that they can succumb to peer pressure and
act inappropriately, even dangerously.
Loss of Friendships. Children with
this fear avoid taking interpersonal risks, such as stating
strong opinions that diverge from the group or family, or making
decisions on their own.
Loss of love. This fear usually comes up when you
feel betrayed by a loved one in experiencing or sharing their
real feelings, leading to
jealousy, finding fault, belief that love can be bought etc. This leaves us open to feeling
The Fear of old age: The fear of old age results from a fear of lack of money and fear of
the unknown world beyond. Diminishing attraction is also a part of
this fear. The fear of old age shows symptoms when one develops an
inferiority complex around the age of 40. You may also begin
referring to yourself as OLD.
The Fear of Death: The fear of death is widespread. Most of us know someone who fears
death, or maybe you fear death. People who fear death often think of
dying rather than making the most out of life. Fear of leaving loved
ones poverty-stricken, fear of ill health, insanity and religious
fanaticism also accompany this fear.
Separation and/or Loneliness: This is the most basic
fear and it includes fear of death. Our culture teaches us to fear
being alone. When you face being alone, your fear of loneliness
recedes. Then you are left with the more basic fear, which is a fear
of separation. This fear of separation is the basic fear, which
underlies your other fears.
Fear of the
Unknown: This fear accompanies change, growth
and any new endeavor, such as going to a new school or making a new
Fear of Pain: Physical, mental, emotional or
spiritual pain can be imagined or experienced and then feared. Fear
of experiencing the pain keeps adults and children unnecessarily
locked into such situations.
Fear is out of
proportion to of the reality of the threat and which leads to
avoidance of the feared object or event is known as a Phobia.