The Bhagavad Gita says thata man should lift himself by himself and should not degrade himself. It maintains that the self can either be a friend or an enemy of the self. If you control your self by yourself then your self is your best friend. But if you have no control over your self, then your self is your own enemy.
Although it's important to have a balance of Health, Wealth & Happiness, health is the most important. Without health obtaining wealth and happiness can become an uphill task.
The modern world is fast-paced. Unlimited information bombards us every moment. Your day is probably filled with activities, events and plenty of distractions that stress you out and and affect your health. It is hard to escape from the rat race and take a minute out just for yourself.
You may be exhausted, having trouble sleeping, and thoughts may be swirling in your head. You may be feeling flustered, overwhelmed, anxious or depressed. You may be suffering from frequent headaches or muscle pains, hypertension, diabetes, muscle and joint problems, indigestion, or a host of other stress related illnesses. All this can take a toll on your happiness, and put a dent in your purse.
According to the Bhavad Gita the person who has learned to control his eating and enjoyment, who performs his actions in a balanced manner, who maintains balance between his waking and sleeping periods,is free from all his sorrows.
Next comes Wealth. Wealth does not necessarily lead to happiness, but it can bring a smile to your face. A certain amount of money can make you happy. But more money can create worry and lead to unhappiness. Therefore, wealth is a relative term.
A beggar can envy the poor slum dweller for his hut and one square meal. The slum dweller can envy the small tea shop owner for his three meals and well clad family. The tea-wallah can envy the trader for his small apartment and comfortable living. The trader can envy the businessman for his bungalow, car, and lavish life. The businessman can envy the industrialist for his jet setting power and high flying parties. The industrialist may end up envying the beggar for his carefree lack of commitment. A Forbes poll of the richest people found they weren't any happier than the average person. You don't have to be rich to be happy. But, you have to know how to manage what little money you have.
Attaining happiness is all about managing your desires. According to Immanuel Kant, "Happiness is the satisfaction of all our desires: extensive in regard to their multiplicity, intensive in regard to their degree, protensive in regard to their duration." Thus our happiness depends on the extent of our desires, how deep those desires are, and how long we continue to satisfy that desire. If our desires are extensive and deep, and we have the capacity to fulfill these desires for a long time, then our happiness will be extensive, intensive, and prolonged. However, if we fail to fulfill these desires then the unhappiness will also be extensive, intensive, and prolonged. Thus, happiness is not something that comes to you. It is something you create. If your desires are small and easy to attain, then it is easy to remain happy. It is not what happens to you that counts. It is how you react to what happens to you.
As stated in the Bagavad Gita you will lead a life with stability, happiness and, ultimately, enlightenment if you embrace the duties required of you at any time, acting only or the sake of service without any consideration for the outcomes while at the same time remaining mindful of reality. Certainly knowledge is better than practice, but better than knowledge is meditation (on our life and actions), superior to which is renunciation of the fruits of actions. Indeed after renunciation there is only peace."
Forgive - you cannot forget. The mind will not allow you to forget. Therefore you must master the art of forgiveness to make room for happiness. Let go of the past now. Whatever happened yesterday is gone. You can't make it better, you can't ruin its glory. Address the challenges of this day and you have power. Take only the lessons from yesterday and leave the baggage.
Have a health lifestyle: Eat a large breakfast, a medium lunch, and a small dinner. Drink plenty of water and go easy on the alcohol. Avoid smoking. Snack on nuts and fruits. Sleep at night. Get regular exercise, at least take a walk every day. Maintain a healthy body weight. Get outdoors.
Have a positive attitude. Have a purpose in life. Understand that you cannot know everything but your experience is unique. You learn new things every day so open your mind to expanding your knowledge. Fill your life with fun, love and laughter Count your blessings. This is one of the ways in which you can be happy. Think about all the nice things that are surrounding you right now. If you have a positive attitude about life, you will attract more good things.
Move away from things that drain you. Some activities rob you of joy. Some tasks deplete you of life energy. Toxic people can pull you into their negative attitudes. Toxic emotions like anger, hatred and jealousy, and negative thoughts can erode your sense of well-being.
Spend time with loved ones. Put family first. Make time for your family. Time with family is priceless. It is important to balance your work life and the relationships that you have with the people who you consider closest to you. Do not let your job to get in the way of spending time with your loved ones. Dedicate at least one day each week to just spend time with your family or friends doing the things that you love.
Share your blessings. Help friends who are in need. Always be there to lend a helping hand to the people who matter to you. This does not only mean sharing your money. You can also share your time, talents, etc. Be grateful for what others have done for you. Give something back. Develop an interest in helping others. The joy of giving can transform your life.
Take regular mental breaks. Start by taking a day off (a week is even better). Send you kids to their grandparents' house. Check into a hotel or stay with a friend. Turn off the TV, telephone and anything else that can cause a distraction. Just spend some time with yourself and your spouse. Eat something on the "bad" list that you love. Go to the park. Take a massage. Read a favorite book. Do some yoga. Spoil yourself. This will make you realize the simple things in life that can make you happy. You do not always have to spend a lot of money in order to be happy. But then, once is not enough. Start scheduling regular breaks of this nature e.g., a long lunch break once a week, a massage every month or a yearly holiday away from home. .
Get a job you like. Make sure that you enjoy what you are doing. You do not want to be stuck in a job that you do not want doing, even if that job pays well. If you enjoy what you are doing, you will not view your job as work. Instead, you will be looking forward to working everyday as you enjoy every moment of it. It is better to engage in one’s own occupation, even though one may perform it imperfectly, than to accept another’s occupation and perform it perfectly. (Bhagavad Gita)
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