My name is ~ and my age is 27 years, i am having a relationship with a boy of 31 years who is preparing for civil services,Recently he faced many failures and so he is very depressed with his life ,now for the last 6 months he is very insensitive to me ,he has stopped all communication with me , i tried to encourage him, supported him but in vain,Some months ago i lost my father and at that time i needed emotional support but he was no where for me.At the same time one of my office colleague who is about 50 years old helped me in out coming of this shock,he cared for me ,he use to be very kind to me and hence we came very close to each other,One day he proposed me, i also developed a liking for him but unable to decide what to do ? Should i accept him ? He is non married and working in the same branch with me ? Please help me or if u know someone who gives an expert advice on these type of issues,i am very lonely and no one to discuss all this?
Dr. Gautham's Reply:
There are a number of avenues you could pursue in relation to combating this problem, but first you need to ask yourself a couple of questions, and perhaps take some quiet introspection. Firstly and most importantly in this situation is do you truly love your boyfriend? If you do, then you should stay with him. Why risk ruining what you have over what may be a fleeting infatuation. Just because you have a crush on someone else, doesn't necessarily mean you have to act on it. It is perfectly natural to find other people besides your boyfriend attractive, this isn't something you should feel guilty about, everyone does it.