I'm 29 years old. My parents are searching for a match for me from last 5 years but every year, as my marriage is about to be fixed it breaks, either due to some dowry, some looks, some fraud in the boys family side etc.. Now I'm fed up of seeing or meeting the guys, and least interested to marry in my caste becuase in my caste money and dowry is more important than a girl. Now I'm  in love with  a guy whom i know from the last 3 years. He is of a different caste. He is one of my best friends with whom I share each and every matter of my life and everything I feel. When I told to my parents, they fell into depression. Now, all the time they say, "You broke our trust...you are immature to take decisions.....we are the owner of your life...... how you dare take the decision of marrying him" erc.

It is continuing for the last 1 year and it is not stopping. I'm planning to marry him but now I'm  under house arrest. They are just showing me  guys who are having good packages and etc. but now I'm not in a mood to marry any other guy. I tried to explain to my parents and brothers individually but they are continously blackmailing me, saying that if I don't broke with him, they'll die. I said,  " At least give me some time," but they are forcing me to choose from the guys they select and to get married.

I'm  suffering from neck pain ,numbness in right hand,regular headache, I take at least 2 pain killers in a day and sometimes I get hallucinations. I visited a doctor and got MRI and other x_rays but everything is normal. Now I'm jobless and under daily pressure from my family. I'm  pissed off! Daily  I feel like committing suicide or running away from home. My hand numbness is getting worse. The headache and backbone pain is also getting worse. If I try to meditate it becomes very difficult. Every time I feel tired, I lost all interest to do all my favorite activities.

I don't know what to do/ How to cope up with  all these issues. Do i really need to visit psychiatrist personally? Recently a neurologist gave me antidepressant tablet to reduce my hand pain and numbness. but after Taking  it I feel more restless. Please help me.

If you are unable to do this, it might be because of your depression in interfering with your ability to handle the situation. The symptoms that you describe including the physical symptoms that have been investigated and found to have no physical basis, suicide or running away from home indicate that you need treatment. So you require treatment with medicines for your depression. The medicines will help you to think this situation through, talk to your parents calmly, and cope with the stresses of your situation.

If you can come to Chennai, you can call             +91 98410 10197       for an appointment. If possible bring your parents too. Then I may be able to talk to them and help you through the situation.