Question:

Intially we were tuition friends and we had started talking a lot on phone. since tuition days i had a crush on this guy and eventually he too started liking me. so one day he expressed his feelings for me and we got into a relationship finally. although i was quite scared of being in a relationship but still i gave it a try. i was not investing much emotonally initially and he always used to complain about that. gradually even i became quite serious about the relationship. but he always wanted me to be prepared for a break up. he used to say circumstances are not governed by us and im preparing u for the worst. we wre happy being wid each other. his sister and my cousin sister are good frnds. my ex told me something about my cousin sis which apparently only his sister knew. he told me to ask about that thing to my cousin so i went upto her and asked. i dint knew that it was such a serious issue. then he broke up with me saying im stupid and he was just joking. and now it wud create difference between his sistr and my cosin sister. and i had broken his trust and he never forgives whoever creates problem for his sister.
he is very stub born so it was impossible for me to save the relationship. i tried hard. bt he said atleast we could be friends. i was very much confused. i dint have the strength to stay away from him so we wre still in touch. afer one month or so he started avoiding me. i was in pain. i used cry very much and was not able to study and eat properly. now few days back he wanted a complete cut off. he said it makes him feel guilty on his part so he was not able to talk to me. he said his decision is good for both of us in long run. and he wants to move on . so i have no other option but to overcome  the pain.
the idea of getting him back is impossible but all i do is to think about him and cry.
i still dont understand y he broke up with me but i want to overcome this pain as im going to enter 3rd year of graduation and i want to get serious for my studies.
so please guide me how tto do that as i am trying hard but the only thing i do is to cry whole day..!!

Dr. Gautham's Reply:

Ending a relationship hurts, even when you know you’re no good together. And just because it hurts to break up, doesn’t mean you’re supposed to stay together! If your ex-boyfriend says he can’t get back together with you, believe him. He may say he loves you — and he may truly love you — but if he really wanted to be with you, he would be with you. If he says he it is over, you need to focus on other – better – parts of your life. You must accept what he says and move on.

Dr. Gautham's reply (Contd..)

Remember that he himself has never been sure about the relationship himself and has always been warning you saying that the relationship may not work out. It appears that the issue with your cousin was only an excuse for him to terminate a relationship that he wan not really interested in any more.