Self-acceptance is a key part of Well Being. It begins with intentionally shifting from blaming, doubting and shaming yourselg and others to a world of allowance, tolerance, acceptance and trust.

So, first make a list of your strengths (See SWOT analysis).

• What are the qualities you particularly like about yourself?
• What are the things you really love to do, and what are the underlying elements that enrich these experiences for you?
• Can you see any patterns or shared skills among these things?
• What do trusted friends or family who know you well think your personal strengths are? (Ask them).
• What tasks make you get engrossed and what are the skills required for these tasks?
• What are the instances in your life when you really felt proud of the way you acted or responded?
• What was it about your action or response that left you feeling proud? What values did you display and why do you feel proud of the way you acted?
• What positive feedback do you get from people in day-to-day life (a smile, a thanks, a pat etc), and what are your qualities that brought the feedback?
• What are the hardships you have overcome, the goals you have accomplished, and the qualities in you that helped you?
• What are the connections you’ve made, and all the lives you’ve touched for the better, and what are your qualities which made them poaaible?

Keep your list at hand, review it frequently, add to it often, visit it frequently, enjoy it.

Make a list of all the people who make you feel good. Surround youself with these people. Meet them as ofen as possible.

Make a list of all the people who make you feel bad. Avoid them.

Stop mourning all the ideals that you had that you could not achieve or attain. Stop comparing yourself with people who are better off than you. Look at all the people who are worse off than you. 

Forgive yourself for all your past deeds. Whenever you meet someone whom you think you may have hurt in some way tell them, "If I have offended you in any way, knowingly or unknowingly, in thought, word or deed, then I seek your forgiveness".

Move on. Whether it’s about something you’ve done or a personality quirk that resulted in a social faux pas, it’s important to learn from the mistake, make efforts to grow, and accept that you can’t change the past. When the tinges of remorse resurface, tell yourself “I made the best decision with information I had at the time.”

Whenever your inner critic surfaces, tell yourself, "I am only human, I am doing the best that I can and that is all I can do”.

Remember that your mistakes and your imperfections are not bad or wrong or failures; weakness and frailty are part of the human experience – they are the nature of humanity. 

You learn from your mistakes. And behind every success there are a hundred failures. Every mistake and failure is an opportunity for learning, healing and growth.

Remember, acceptance is not resignation. By letting go of the past and the things you cannot control, you can focus your energy on that which you can control, and thereby empower yourself.