Sex in Old Age
Sex in Old Age
The benefits of good sex can be extensive for older men and women alike, It can increase circulation, reduce anxiety, release painkilling endorphins—and help to relax and satisfy. But senior sex can present challenges due to physical or emotional issues. However, these problems csn be overcome with better understanding. With an open mind, you can enjoy a healthy sex life well into your later years.
Man or woman, you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. Sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways it can be better. But many elders end up turning away from sex because of embarrasment with their aging bodies or by their “performance, illness or loss of a partner. This cab be avoided by having an open mind and being proactive.
Understanding problems, both physical and emotional, can be an effective first step to kindling passion.Stress, anxiety, and depression can affect your interest in sex and your ability to become aroused. Body image, such as wrinkles or gray hair, or sagging skin may make you feel feel less attractive to your partner. Life changes may leave you feeling uncertain, unfulfilled, or worthless making you worrying about whether you are worthy of sexual attention from your partner. You may be anxious how you will perform, or worry about beiong rejected.
As you grow older and your bodies and feelings change it is important to communicate your thoughts, fears, and desires with your partner and vice versa. Humor, gentle teasing, and even tickling to lighten the mood.can make communication about sex a lot easier. Being honest.and letting your partner know how you are feeling can be relaxing, attractive, and enjoyable. Try something new which is acceptable to your partner. The senior yearscan be a time of creative passion.
Sex takes on a broader definition as we age. It is not just about intercourse. It is about emotional pleasure, sensory pleasure, and relationship pleasure. Touching, kissing, and other intimate sexual contact can be just as rewarding for both you and your partner.
Passion is about intimacy and touch. Even if you are ill or have physical disabilities, you can engage in intimate acts and benefit from closeness with your partner. Change your old ideas of what sex is. Focuson the importance of tenderness and contact. You may want to start with a romantic dinner or breakfast. Share romantic or erotic literature and poetry. Hold hands and touch your partner often, and encourage him or her to touch you. Tell your partner what you love about him/her, and share your ideas about new sexual experiences you might have together. Find something that relaxes both of you, massage or baths together.
Keep in mind that it’s not all about intercourse or recreating the way things were when you were younger. The key to a great sex life is finding out what works for you.
Senior sex may call for some creativity. Use the following ideas as inspiration, but don’t be afraid to come up with your own.